Is and oughts

Sundus malik published on KASHMIR HORIZON

In a world where there are a lot of problems to solve, where there are a lot of stereotypes to break, where the norms of the society are holding us back, where society is not pacing up and down between the ethics and modern ways of living, where equality is seen same as justice, it is difficult to find the true voices that need to be heard. World never seems to be balanced either it is unjust for things that need to be found and fought for or it overrates the justice for the things that could be postponed to get justice for the things that are more serious and severe. From the discrimination of judicial activism and actions between rich and poor to the discrimination of world's  institutions to react to rich and poor. From the discrimination of providing food to poor or more poor to the discrimination of justice been given to rich victims or poor victims. From the discrimination of topics to be called out to the discrimination of real topics that are in need to be discussed and eventually solved. From  pseudo feminism giving wings to fake allegations to actually speaking about the real victims. We all see it, we all are frustrated about it. We all need to talk about it but we are not able to put forward the things that really need to be there in the discussion. The elephant in the room is not a pseudo feminist or false accusations of assualt, harrassment, molestation or even rape but is a real victim for whom the justice is most needed to live selfrespectfully or even to survive and we got to talk about it. The people are biased today, even if they are not but majority of them seem to be biased because they would condemn selectively the things that their conscience felt hurtful or unjust. They would not talk about everything. They would talk about the things that suffice their bellies. They would not ask for justice to each and every allegation.   

 World has become a dangerous place to live in even though we are in this lockdown making sure that we are safe at our homes, not going out, not interacting with other people, not being able to socially function the way we used to before covid-19 still in this time there are a lot of things that are happening around like domestic violence on wives, parents pressurizing kids to become perfect, men being morally attacked, questions on the testimonies that were false.

 Speaking of men, I would like to quote a basic biological phenomena; "No two human brains are same". Yes, that's true no two human beings are same, no two human brains function same. Every human brain is an individual organ that has got it's own individual synopsis, neurotransmissions, reflex actions, ways of thinking, memory abilities, intelligence, approaching any problem, decision making, the way it thinks of this world or the understanding of morally reprehensible or Praiseworthy activities. So how can two men be the same? It's impossible. Then why do we accuse all men to be same? Maybe history has been a bit harsh on us as women. Maybe some men who did bad to women never got any consequence for their lethal and dangerous actions but that does not mean that all of them are about that "same bad intentions". World has changed the debate around men. They are seen as culprits. But as I said no two brains function the same way. A person as human beings can be morally corrupted. We cannot generalize it for a gender. Today in the world where all of us and our ancestors in a way have fought for the justice for women, the topic is being substantially shifted from providing voice to victims to give powers to accuse anyone you want. It has not only demean the ethical standards of men as gender but also delayed  the equity of just decisions on real cases. 

As per the report the frequency of domestic violence against men has increased in recent years, and that many cases go unreported as men feel too ashamed to report abuse, or fear false accusations against them in reprisal. It is not every time about one side, about women. We as society always fail in one or the other way to tackle with the traumatic social issues. In our society despite the education system being a top priority we fail to educate our young generation to see a Sinner as a sinner not as a gender, religion, caste, creed or colour. Even today the victims are afraid to come out, feel ashamed to talk about it. We often look either for heads or tails but never for both. Like the recent incident of bois locker room. It was heart-wrenching to see the what as society what we have become but also heartwarming to see the reactions from every nook and corner of the world. But what was upsetting was the way different ideologies turned the discussion on a different level. Its is a henious crime and we all cannot deny what social media can do to a persons mental health and what impact of it can have on our society. It speaks volumes about the process that we ought to have for movements of peace and prosperity. We actually do not know where we are heading. 

  In the noise of feminist male bashing which is a real thing and not a misunderstanding or a smear, we need to respect each other. We need to respect the differences that we have either because of gender or because of eithics and values. All feminists do not hate men, all men do not hate feminists and all women are not feminists. This is everyone's individual choice. We should accept it and try to live together. Let us seek truth, speak about it and stand by it. There are no liberals or conservatives but humans only as there are no gender specific crimes but crimes only.